Robbing your 401K – which a bankruptcy doesn’t take on purpose because its important to have a retirement plan – is not the choice you want to make. Not to mention the 40% penalty you’ll acrue. If you have 100,000 in your 401K – you’ll walk away with 60,000. You’ll never conceivably make up that 40,000 loss.
I’m sorry I haven’t thought of a solution for you – I read your e-mail early this morning and I don’t usually like to write an answer without a workable solution but I thought it important that I stress how bad your plan is. I read your plight on renting and the need for accessible housing, but I don’t have a good answer for you.